Photography by David Cline
For those of you who think I effortlessly travel and move to new cities… you are wrongggg.
Moving to a new place, (alone, mind you), is one of the more difficult things I’ve done in this lifetime. So, here’s a little how-to guide on doing it in New York City. Maybe this will help some of you when you decide to move, or have moved recently.
LA is so my jam, so it’s been very interesting living here in the city, which is the polar opposite of everything I am, and yet somehow the very place I’m meant to be right now. Hence, the beach pics + writing on NYC lifestyle.
I’ve lived all over, but New York has been the toughest to get synchronized with. It’s fast paced and everyone is getting shit done. The best way for me to get with it, was to just fall into it. I learned the hard way that to make friends and have fun, you just have to say ‘yes’. So now, when someone is like I need hair cream from this little place off Broadway that sells anything you can think of, come with me… I say yes, because this is the way to explore, find things, make memories, and build friendships. Even if it takes you twenty minutes to get there and six bucks worth of metro swipes. It. Is. Worth. It.
The other thing I learned, and wish so badly I would have done before, is to be completely and totally comfortable with myself- publicly, privately, and all the in-between. There’s so many people around me all the time that I never know, which makes it feel like I’m alone anyway. This allowed me to be myself in public, and not try to have a front up or act proper/appropriate/whatever. I can just be myself, whatever I’m feeling like that day. And in turn, this has heavily fallen into my private life, when I’m alone or with friends, I’m way more comfortable with being who I know I am, doing things I do. I don’t have to think so hard about it anymore.
I think something that goes with that, is learning to be okay on your own. For me, this was the hardest part because I HATE being alone, with a capital freaking H. I get sad and hate everything when I’m alone for too long, which really isn’t good fundamentally. For the first four months here, I was miserable. Mostly because of the amount of time I spent by myself. After all that time, emotional struggle, and daily phone calls to my mom crying, I finally became comfortable in it. And I can’t tell you exactly what it was that changed for me. But I’m so thankful it happened because now I feel independent in the most base sense of being, like down there in my root chakra, I finally got a grasp on my life.
SHOP SIMILAR SWIMMIES
The last thing I’ve struggled with is how and when to spend my money here. It’s crazy moving to a new place because you basically become a tourist. You want to do and see all the things. But I had to have a moment with myself and remember that I live here now. These things are available to me at all times for a couple of years. So it’s good to take it slow. I stress myself out trying to do to all the things, and my mom, on one of our many phone calls, simply reminded me that I can’t do everything. It’s good to take a day for yourself every now and then to regroup and recover.
SHOP SIMILAR JEANS
The very last thing I learned to do was to center myself spiritually. This bud of mine in the pic above is the ultimate healer and spirit guide. I never needed him as badly as I have while living here, and he came to me right when I was losing it. When it gets really tough, you’ll always get the help you need if you keep yourself open.
SHOP THE SUNNIES
SHOP KENDRA SCOTT
Bikini | Frankie Swimwear
Jeans | BDG Urban Renewal
Sunnies | Calvin Klien
Necklace | Kendra Scott